Are grudges released after death?

M.A. from Charlotte, NC asks: Do people still hold grudges when they cross over?

Following is the answer as it was explained to me by my spirit guides: 

This is completely dependent on the vibrational space one is in when they leave the physical body. Assuming they cross over, as most souls do, then the energetic frequency of an emotion such as spite, or anger (those that would be associated with holding a grudge) isn’t in resonance with the vibrational plane they are in and would be released. However, if one leaves the body but does not immediately cross over, staying instead in the earth plane, where such vibrations are possible to experience, then yes, one can still feel “human” emotions like anger and spite.

The space that a person goes to when they leave the body that is termed “heaven” or “the other side” resonates at a particular energetic frequency that is much different than that of the earth plane. It is because of this difference in vibrational frequency that people often don’t see those who have crossed over—it is often difficult to perceive one who is resonating at a vibration that is outside of the spectrum that you are used to. The range of vibrational frequency that a person operates within when they are on the other side is not in resonance with the energies of emotions like anger, hate, envy, greed and so on. One in this plane has a concept of such emotions but does not actually experience  such emotions. The other side is "higher" vibratory space that is in resonance with energies such as love, compassion, peace, understanding and joy. Therefore, the energies that are in resonance with holding a grudge do not exist in this plane. A person would not carry a grudge into this new vibrational space—it is not possible given the nature of physics.

What one may do when they leave their body and cross over to the other side is reach out to the one still on the earth plane that they held a grudge against in an effort to provide healing. When one crosses over they have a much wider perspective of life—both their own personal experiences, and the points of view of all the ones they interacted with while on the earth plane. As such, they have a far clearer understanding of what needs to be healed, the purpose of the disagreement to begin with (at the soul level) and any karmic ties associated with the person the grudge was against. A person, once on the other side, has clear vision of the “big picture” and  far better understanding of all facets of the situation where the grudge is concerned. Therefore, it is common that an individual holding a grudge against someone, after crossing over, may do some healing work with the one whom the conflict was with. They are not trying to influence the individual on earth in any negative way—they may simply offer love and light to this person as they now have a more loving and clear perspective—a soul perspective—of the situation and the lessons it was intended to provide. 

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